A HEALING RETREAT FOR PARENTS NAVIGATING ESTRANGEMENT

The Reconciliation
Intensive

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Heal your heart.
Take Responsibility.
Make Amends. Discover Peace

A transformational retreat for parents and grandparents navigating estrangement from adult children and grandchildren.

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Trauma Informed | Family Systems Focused | Confidential & Safe Space

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A HEALING RETREAT FOR PARENTS NAVIGATING ESTRANGEMENT

The Reconciliation
Intensive

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A transformational retreat for parents and grandparents navigating estrangement from adult children and grandchildren.

Heal your heart.
Take Responsibility.
Make Amends. Discover Peace

SCHEDULE A DISCOVERY CALL

Trauma Informed | Family Systems Focused | Confidential & Safe Space

Inner healing is the first step. Reconciliation is possible. Peace is always within reach.

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Break the pattern, not the family

When an adult child pulls away, cuts contact, or limits access to your grandchildren, the pain can feel unbearable.

You may replay conversations endlessly, wondering what happened, what you missed, or what you could have done differently.

You may feel grief, confusion, shame, anger, helplessness—or simply a longing for one more opportunity to be heard and understood.

Most parents arrive looking for answers.

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What they discover is something deeper:

Not how to change their child.
But how to heal themselves.

Not how to force reconciliation.
But how to become the kind of person capable of creating it if the opportunity ever returns.

This retreat is an invitation to stop fighting the symptom and begin healing the pattern beneath it.

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The goal is not to get your child back.
The goal is to become whole, whether they return or not.

This retreat may be for you if…

  • You are estranged from an adult child and may have limited or no access to your grandchildren.

  • You feel confused, heartbroken, or blamed and do not know how to move forward

  • You want to understand what happened without collapsing into shame.

  • You are willing to examine your own patterns and take responsibility where appropriate

  • You long for reconciliation but understand you cannot control another person’s choices

  • You want peace, meaning, and emotional freedom whether or not the relationship is restored.

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The Reconciliation Journey

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Healing begin when we stop trying to control the outcome and start transforming the relationship we have with ourselves, our past, and our family story.

Regardless of the outcome, you deserve to heal.

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    Heal the Pain of Estrangement

    Process grief, loss, anger, shame, and heartbreak in a safe and supportive environment.

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    Extract the wisdom

    Identify the generational wounds and unconscious dynamics beneath the rupture.

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    Discover the lesson

    Discover what this experience is revealing about your life, relationships, and patterns.

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    Forgive

    Release blame, resentment, and self-condemnation without bypassing the truth.

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    Surrender the outcome

    Find peace whether reconciliation happens, takes time, or never comes.

During This Retreat
You Will Discover

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Through guided self-inquiry, family systems work, emotional processing, meditation, and reflective practices, you will gain a deeper understanding of both your pain and your path forward.

You will be guided through a deep emotional and spiritual process to help you:

Understand estrangement
Through the lens of family systems, generational patterns.

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Recognize how to own your wounds
Defenses, and survival strategies influenced your parenting.

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Learn how to take responsibility
And make amends without controlling the outcome.

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Find peace, meaning and emotional freedom
Whether reconciliation happens or not.

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“The goal is not perfection.
The goal is awareness, responsibility, and healing.”

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Retreat Details

Everything you need to know before scheduling a discovery call.

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    The Healing Barn

    Location
    Santa Fe, New Mexico

    Nestled among ponderosa pines in the Sangre de Cristo foothills, The Healing Barn offers a peaceful environment for deep reflection, emotional healing, and renewal.

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    Duration

    4 Nights / 3 Days

    A carefully guided immersion designed to help you step away from daily distractions and focus fully on your healing journey.

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    Who Is It For

    Parents and grandparents experiencing estrangement from adult children or grandchildren who are ready to explore healing, accountability, forgiveness, and personal transformation.

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    What's Included

    ✓ Private accommodations
    ✓ Daily guided sessions
    ✓ Meditation instruction
    ✓ Family systems exploration
    ✓ Emotional processing exercises
    ✓ Nature immersion
    ✓ Journaling practices
    ✓ Healthy meals
    ✓ Post-retreat integration resources

Your Experience Includes

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    Emotional Healing

    Family systems work, shadow work, grief processing, accountability, forgiveness, and reconciliation principles.

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    Meditation & Inner Reflection

    Daily guided meditation, contemplative practices, silence, journaling, and self-inquiry.

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    Nature & Renewal

    Mountain views, walking trails, fresh air, quiet spaces, and restorative time away from daily demands.

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    Community & Support

    A compassionate, confidential environment where your story is honored without judgment.

Investment

Private Room

$2,999

Includes lodging, meals, retreat programming, and all materials. Couple + $750

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Space is intentionally limited to maintain a deeply personal experience.

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THE HEALING BARN

Healing Is Possible

Whether reconciliation comes quickly, slowly, or never arrives in the form you imagined, your life does not have to remain defined by estrangement.

You deserve peace.
You deserve healing.
You deserve a future that is larger than this pain.

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What Past Participants Are Saying

Real stories from parents who have walked this path
and found healing, clarity, and peace—regardless of the outcome.

★★★★★

5.0 average rating from past retreat participants

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    “The pain of losing connection with my daughter after my divorce brought me to Santa Fe. Jana & Dr Lance helped me see my part in the rupture, let go of trying to force reconciliation, and learn the value of patience and unconditional love. I left with greater peace, hope, and a renewed commitment to being available for my daughter whenever she is ready.”

    Marie Shannon · Canada

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    “I came struggling with the pain of estrangement from my daughter. The teachings helped me move from heartbreak and frustration toward acceptance, accountability, and peace. I found the courage to reach out, make amends, and release my attachment to the outcome. The experience changed how I see myself, my role, and the path forward.”

    Mark Altobello · Virginia

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    “The Emotional Healing System and Jana helped me finally release years of guilt surrounding my divorce and my son's addiction. I learned the difference between love and caretaking, and I came to understand that I was helpless over his choices. Forgiving myself was one of the most powerful experiences of my life. As I let go of guilt and control, my relationship with my son began to shift, and for the first time in years, I found peace.”

    Jill Calvert · Toronto

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    “I came to Santa Fe struggling with the pain of being cut off from my son and grandchildren. Jana & staff helped me work through years of guilt, take responsibility for my past without being defined by it, and develop healthy boundaries with my adult son. I learned that love does not require self-sacrifice and that I don't have to choose between my husband and my son. For the first time in years, I left feeling grounded, empowered, and at peace with myself."

    Tammy Richter · California

You are not alone.

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Healing is possible. Peace is possible.
And a new chapter is possible.

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